Happy 2020! New year….New decade…New energy…New opportunities!
In these first few days of the New Year before the next Monday comes and the engine of daily life begins to fully roar, I have a thought.
Before jumping into resolutions – Let’s look backwards and reflect on our journey over the last 10 years? Let’s allow ourselves to breathe in the power and the courage it took to still be standing here in 2020. What challenges did we overcome that we can look back on with a new perspective? What moments of joy would we like to reach into our memory banks, remember and relive how it made us feel? What accomplishments and milestones are we most excited by or proud of and why? What lessons did we learn that can guide us into the next decade?
There’s one more layer to this reflection exercise – Let’s break down all these questions to examine the various roles we play in life (roles like partner, parent, friend, professional, community member, spiritual member, healthy being / athlete, hobbyist, sibling).
When we reflect on these moments and examine our role, what ideas come up? What shifts might we want to make? What areas do we want to focus on? How might we shift the balance of our time and priorities?
I don’t mean to overplay the New Year of 2020, but symbolism is powerful. 20/20 is the definition of clear sight and vision. We hold the power within ourselves to grow, expand, learn and manifest. Yet it doesn’t happen if we don’t choose to give our lives some conscious focus and awareness. From that awareness our commitment to small steps that deepen into our own powerful and thriving health, connection and success arise.
Create a Resolution about Being Not Doing
As we turn our focus to New Year’s resolutions, here’s another thing to consider. Let’s not create resolutions that involve doing; Let’s create resolutions that are about being.
Let’s make resolutions that:
a) reinforce how we want to show up in the world
b) deepen into the values we want to embody for our entire lives and the roles we play
c) help us remember how we want to create and expand rather than react, especially in challenging moments
I ask this because if we focus on our being, the doing will naturally come. But if we focus on the doing without taking a look at our deeper frameworks of being (who we are, how we want to live and how we want to show up), the commitment to the doing can quickly lose momentum. We just get stuck in old patterns.
Here’s a simple but profound exercise to begin our being resolutions.
Click on this list of values.
Write down the 10 values that identify how you want to be and who you want to be thought of no matter what role you’re in. These values do not have to be fully true right now – they can be aspirational.
Now look at that list and cut out five values, leaving you with the five values you most want to bring forth in your life – perhaps they’re the concepts and thoughts you would most like to hear from others as they celebrate you on your 90th birthday.
Get two Post-it notes and write the top 3-4 values on each of those papers. Put one sticky note on your bathroom mirror and one on your computer or car dashboard.
Reflect on those words Every Day for the next month, as you set an intention each morning on how you can bring these values to life today in one of the roles that you play.
Observe what evolves. Perhaps take a few minutes every day to write down your intention and later write down any reflections on how you felt when bringing that value more to life. What did you learn? What might you want to do tomorrow?
By giving our attention to our being, quiet shifts that lead to seismic changes begin to occur in our relationships, health, professional effectiveness and success. We are the change we seek.